Are you constantly comparing yourself to others? Are you constantly seeking outside validation or opinions? Here's how to get your validation from within instead.
We are all in different parts of our journey and all starting from a different place. There literally is no comparison between each other. We started this life energetically where we ended in our last life. So everyone starts off in a different place. Only compare to where you were not to anyone else! We are all apples and oranges and there is no comparison!
Comparing yourself to others only distracts you from yourself and your purpose. When you catch yourself doing that, instead put more focus back on yourself and look inward more.
You can use others as a reference point or to help spark ideas but be very vigilant that you aren't comparing yourself to others or seeking their validation.
You can use others as a reference of what you would like to strive for and as motivation, but beating yourself up because you aren't where they are right now won't help and will only slow down your progress. Only your validation matters.
You can only see others through your perspective. From the outside everything may seem great but in reality they may be in a worse place than you realize.
Sometimes comparing yourself to others may be a distraction tool to justify not moving forward. Going forward can be scary so sometimes we do anything we can subconsciously to justify staying stuck.
When you stay stuck you don't have the fear of something new, but you also never have the joy and reward of moving forward. Someone who is stuck can never create a better life for themselves. There will always be some fear involved when moving forward but it's important to push through that towards your goal.
So look deep and be sure you aren't comparing yourself to others subconsciously to justify staying stuck. That could show up as "I could never be like her, why even try." Or "She did that so well I couldn't do that well so why bother" etc.
You can never find yourself fully if you are basing your self assurance on what others do.
At soul level we are all so different. This is a beautiful thing! If we were all the same how boring would that be?
Often the cause of comparing and looking to others for validation is a lack of knowing your ownself. When you don't know yourself or are insecure in yourself you don't trust your own validation.
To change that, start by focusing on what you do like about yourself. You have lots of wonderful qualities, don't hide them! Start actively working on the things you aren't happy about.
We are always a work in progress and can always become who we want to be with action and effort. So instead of comparing and being down on yourself work on those things! Just starting to do that will give you a bigger sense of control and confidence!
Try not to focus too much on physical aspects. Yes you want to be healthy and do what's in your control to make you feel and look good but don't get down on yourself about things you can't change about your appearance.
We are only in the physical body for a short amount of time. We have our soul forever that is what is important. Focus on working on what you can change and let go of what you can't. Focus on working on what you can change.
Too much looking for validation from others will only bring you farther from yourself. For example an apple seeking validation from an orange. The orange may tell the apple you are too green and need to be more orange. So the apple fights and tries and does anything it can to turn orange. As the apple tries to become orange it is becoming less and less of its true self.
At soul level the apple is an apple and needs to be proud of that. Becoming more like an orange only takes the apple off of its own path. Be more of you not someone else.
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Our ego can also get in the way sometimes. Look deep and find out why it matters so much to you to be like others or compare yourself to them etc. In the end none of that matters. You are here on earth to express yourself!
Be you and let go of that need for outside validation, don't let it have power over you. It's all from a different perspective and doesn't really count when it boils down to it anyway. Your perspective is what matters! Get more in tune with you and what you want! The more you are focused on and working on you, the less you will care about or seek validation from the outside.
We all have different goals to accomplish and different reasons why. Only you can work towards them in your way. Become more you not more of somebody else.
The key is knowing who you are. This can be tricky for some that may have been astray from themselves for a while but it's never too late to find yourself. First start by erasing other people's opinions. Focus deeper on what you feel without outside influence getting in the way.
Think about when you get validation from others but don't believe it yourself. Do you downplay it to them? Do you say thank you but no I did horrible? So looking for validation outside yourself even if you do get it it's still not going to change the way you feel. It may be nice to hear but what's most important is for you to believe it yourself. If you don't believe it it will never matter anyway!
Work on comparing yourself to where you were 6 months ago or 2 years ago. See your progress only, no one else's progress counts. They may have accomplished what you want to accomplish but they may have taken many lives to get there.
Most of us are way harder on ourselves than we would be on someone else. It's important to start focusing on all your accomplishments and not the so called fails. A fail is never a fail, it becomes a lesson of what to do better next time. Those lessons are so important in our growth.
Don't be so hard on yourself, learn and move on! When you stay stuck on past "fails", it prevents you from moving forward and just creates more "fails." Let it go and work on doing better next time. Don't allow your identity to be caught up in outside circumstances. Your identity is your soul, let that shine!
So forget about what others think and really center in on yourself. You are living and creating your life so how you feel is what matters. You are here on earth to experience yourself as an individual. Be the best you, you can be and let go of that attachment to what others think!